First I will tell you what a life coach is not; it is not a therapist. Most do not have a degree in counseling or psychology. If they do, they have left the profession to be a life coach for a reason. Life coaches should have some kind of training. I am a Certified Life Coach. In addition, I am a practitioner of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
Life Coaches Help you Shift Your Perspective
A life coach will challenge you to look at things from different perspectives. They will question your actions, and the goals you claim to have. They will help you narrow down what is helping you move forward in life and what is holding you back. The goal is to move you toward being the best version of yourself. Life coaches may call you out in a way that a traditional therapist would not. A life coach will guide you to take responsibility for yourself.
When you take responsibility, then you become empowered to change the way you think and feel about issues. Naturally, when we have experienced trauma or negative past events, we adopt feelings and attach meanings to things that occurred. For example, we say, “I feel like ___ because when I was a kid my parents did _____. ”
This is considered normal when we talk to our friends because society accepts these aspects of psychology as fact. But when you feel like a victim, you are powerless. Getting out of the thinking that you must be a certain way because of your past is a huge part of moving into the future in a positive way. So it won’t be easy, but that is why it can be such a life-changing experience.
Life Coaches Focus on the Future
The coaching program is more present and future-focused. A life coach will guide you to look for solutions rather than dwell on what has already happened. They will ask you to look inside yourself, define your values, and your overall life vision. Then you can break down the steps and set up goals and milestones that inspire and motivate you to keep moving forward.
The Life Coach Relationship
A life coach can be like a friend. The relationship tends to be informal. However you pay this friend to be direct, ask you the tough questions, not judge you, hold you accountable, and of course keep everything confidential. You may meet with your life coach face to face, over the phone, or on video chat. The schedule will be determined by you and the coach. Maybe you want to meet weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly. The goal is to figure out the frequency that keeps you moving forward.
Is a Life Coach Right for Me?
Before seeking out a life coach, ask yourself these questions:
- Are you really ready to make changes?
- Is your mind open to looking at things from different perspectives?
- Do you have time or are you willing to make time to take steps toward changing your life?
If you say no to any of these, a life coach may not make much difference in your life at this time. It’s important that you realize a life coach is not a genie that will make all of your wishes come true. They are there to guide you and hold you accountable if you ask them to. However they cannot do the work for you, the desire has to come from within. If you say no to any of these but you want to say yes, try out the free consultation call and let me know about your concerns. We can work together to determine how to move forward.
What is a narcolepsy coach?
A narcolepsy coach is a term I made up to identify myself as a life coach that is experienced in dealing with the unique challenges that come with having narcolepsy. I can certainly work with clients without narcolepsy but I want to reach out to my community of PWNs especially to help them overcome challenges that other coaches or professionals may not understand.
In my experience, many of the limiting beliefs that were holding me back in life stemmed from my understanding of narcolepsy. I created an identity out of my diagnosis and allowed it to keep me frozen in place, not making any progress in life. If others are in a similar situation, I’m prepared with tools to break this mold.
Please schedule a free coaching call with me below or message me if the times I have set aside don’t work for you!
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Most do not have a degree in counseling or psychology. If they do, they have left the profession to be a life coach for a reason. Life coaches should have some kind of training. I am a Certified Life Coach. In addition, I am a practitioner of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Neuro-Linguistic Programming,
To Kayla Douglas:
I’m Alex Dymerets. I’ve had Idiopathic Hypersomnia (treated exactly like a narcoleptic) and severe depression for over 20 years. I tried to have a career… jumping from one consulting assignment to another (total 10 year full time role; 10 year consulting). I now cannot stay awake at computer and stopped working in 2018. I don’t know how to pivot to new career.
Hi Alex, Thanks for sharing a little about you. I’m looking forward to speaking with you next week!